Cunnilingus [ kuhn-l-ing-guh s ]NOUN

mass noun

• Stimulation of the female genitals using the tongue or lips.

from New Latin, from Latin cunnus vulva + lingere to lick

It’s estimated that 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm and oral sex can be one of the most fun ways to achieve this so it’s no wonder us Human Beings have been practicing it for centuries.

Slow and Steady

The clitoris has about 8,000 nerve endings (twice as much as the penis) so it’s probably best to not hammer down on it straight away, unless you want a knee in the face. Start slowly, gradually making your way down there.  To begin with you could try ‘hinting’ where you don’t concentrate on the clitoris for too long but just ‘tease’ it with your tongue occasionally, whilst her arousal builds.

It’s Not a Race

Most men will know that women need a little extra time, to not only become aroused but reach orgasm too.  Don’t try and rush her to get to the end. She’ll feel under too much pressure and she won’t be able to orgasm.  Let her see that you are enjoying it.  Oral sex doesn’t have to end in an orgasm, it can be great fun as foreplay so if things aren’t working anymore, move on to something else, I expect she’ll be wanting to return the favour at some point!

Experiment

When she’s ready, focus more on the clitoris. Most women need a consistent rhythm to climax so experiment with different strokes and pressure, until you find something she’s responding to, and then build up to a steady rhythm.  You can try and add in some penetration when she’s getting really into it.  A finger in the anus or vagina can really do it for some women (but not all).  She’ll let you know if she doesn’t want it. 

Edging

Just before she’s about to climax, try stopping for a few seconds, and then start again, repeat this 4-5 times (or as many/few times as is possible before she can’t take it anymore.) It does require a bit of self-control from both of you.  You have to deny her, her pleasure, and she has to have the strength to tell you to stop (unless you know your partner very well) but the results are worth it as the stop/start builds up in her body so when she finally gets the chance to release, she’ll get a mind-blowing more intense climax.

Confident Vagina

We all have insecurities and oral sex can make us ladies feel a bit exposed with our delicate bits staring you in the face!  The vulva, labia, clitoris and anus are visible in all their glory for the giver to see.  To get the best out of oral sex she needs to know that hers are perfectly normal and her flappy/long/short bit is only going to look like a work of art to a straight guy.  Use your fingers to explore her and have a good look.  Be interested.  Be passionate.  Tell her how sexy it is.  Let her relax so she can show it off. Women need to know that men love knowing that he is the one making her feel amazing.

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